communication – Quietly Neurodivergent

Being a Good Colleague to Someone Who’s Quietly Neurodivergent

Andrew at Quietly Neurodivergent — Sat, 17 Jan 2026 10:00:00 +0000

You might have a colleague who is bright and reliable but often quiet, hard to read or exhausted after busy days. Maybe they’ve told you they are autistic or ADHD, or maybe you just have a sense that the world takes more effort for them. This guide offers practical, plain-English ways to be a good colleague: clearer emails, reasonable notice, respecting headphone time, avoiding minimising jokes and gossip, and remembering you don’t have to fix them to make work a little kinder.

Living With Someone Who Comes Home Exhausted From Masking: A Guide for Partners

Andrew at Quietly Neurodivergent — Sat, 03 Jan 2026 10:00:00 +0000

If your partner comes home from work exhausted, quiet or shut down while everyone else sees them “coping fine”, it can really hurt. This guide explains what masking is, why home becomes the crash site, and how you can support them with decompression time, low-pressure evenings and kinder language – without ignoring your own needs.

How to Support a Quietly Neurodivergent Employee: A Practical Guide for Managers

Andrew at Quietly Neurodivergent — Mon, 22 Dec 2025 10:00:00 +0000

Many managers want to support neurodivergent staff but quietly worry about getting it wrong. This article explains what “quietly neurodivergent” can look like at work, why masking and exhaustion are so common, and how clear expectations, written follow-up and small adjustments can make a big difference. It’s written in plain English so a neurodivergent person can share it with their line manager and say, “This is quite close to my experience.”

Phones, Video Calls and Real-Time Panic: A Neurodivergent Guide

Andrew at Quietly Neurodivergent — Sat, 20 Dec 2025 12:15:00 +0000

Many autistic and ADHD people don’t just “dislike” phone and video calls – they find them genuinely exhausting. Real-time processing, unspoken social cues and the pressure to respond quickly can leave you anxious before the call and wiped out afterwards. This article explores why calls are so hard, why preferring text, IM or email is a valid access need, and offers gentle scripts and small strategies for coping when calls are unavoidable and for asking for alternatives when that’s possible.

Vague Instructions Are an Access Issue

Andrew at Quietly Neurodivergent — Wed, 17 Dec 2025 14:45:22 +0000

“Can you just pull something together?” can feel like a small request, but for many autistic and ADHD people it creates a huge amount of hidden work. This article looks at why vague instructions are an access issue, how our brains juggle multiple interpretations at once, and offers simple, kind scripts and questions to get clearer outcomes, deadlines and formats without feeling difficult.

How I Explain How I Work: Writing a Neurodiversity Statement

Andrew at Quietly Neurodivergent — Wed, 17 Dec 2025 14:23:05 +0000

Knowing you’re neurodivergent is one thing; explaining it to managers, tutors or coordinators is another. This article walks through how to write a short “how I work” neurodiversity statement, using a simple structure, example sentences based on my own statement, and ideas for adapting it to work, study and volunteering while still protecting your privacy.

Surviving Meetings When Your Brain Is Already Full

Andrew at Quietly Neurodivergent — Mon, 15 Dec 2025 19:12:07 +0000

Meetings can look like “where the real work happens” from the outside and like sensory and cognitive overload from the inside. This article explores why meetings are so tiring for autistic and ADHD people, shares how I cope with agendas, notes, quiet fidgets and reset time, and offers small, realistic tweaks that can make your next meeting a little less overwhelming.

When Your Default Is “Go Quiet and Deliver”

Andrew at Quietly Neurodivergent — Fri, 12 Dec 2025 21:09:13 +0000

Many autistic and ADHD people naturally “go quiet and deliver”: we disappear into the work and only update when there’s something concrete to show. This article explores why that happens, how it can worry managers who can’t see what’s going on, and offers tiny, realistic ways to agree check-ins and send short updates without turning into someone who lives in email.